I’m Amy and I am so glad you found your way here. I am a mom, wife, daughter, entrepreneur, tree-hugging child of God, with a financially risky addiction to books and coffee. Oh and a life coach – which is probably what brought you here. As you see, we all wear a lot of hats, which can become overwhelming at times. That’s where I come in. In junior high, I was called ‘the therapist’. While I seriously considered it, I did not go on to become a therapist. Eventually, though, life brought me full circle and I became something even more to my point: a life coach.
And what point was that, you ask? To help people in new ways. I felt like the psychologists and psychiatrists had the mental health realm pretty well covered. I wanted to branch out from there and help with the next rungs on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.￼Most of us in this country are blessed enough to tend to have a grasp on the basic needs. There are also well established resources to help with our psychological needs. But what about that top rung, our self-fulfillment needs? Welcome to life coaching.
Mother culture teaches in subtle ways that work is the point of our existence. We all know that’s not the case. And yet… When is the last time you took a vacation? Or took the afternoon off for no reason than to do something just for you? Do you have a hobby? That you actually participate in and invest in? What is the last thing you invested in simply because you enjoyed it? Without feeling guilty! Yeah. I think you get my point.
While there is a nostalgic charm to the Leave It to Beaver years, this is one thing about the 21st century that I welcome with open arms. It’ll take time but we are seeing a shift in the collective perspective. We are learning to feel more comfortable valuing ourselves. And that is so important!
Engage in a thought experiment with me. Let’s say you have a dream of being an entrepreneur. After reading the next paragraph, close your eyes and lose yourself in this thought experiment, trying it on for size as if it were your reality.
“Sitting at your desk at work, you try to remember what’s for dinner, if you need to stop at the store, what after-school activities the kids have today, etc. Rushing around after work, you drop this kid off here, pick up that kid there, swing into the store, get gas, pick up the first kid, rush home to start dinner. Starting dinner, you shoo the kids out of the way, telling them to get on their homework. Standing over the stove, stirring, you laugh at your daydreams of starting your own business.”
Now, let’s try on a different scenario. After reading the next paragraph, close your eyes and lose yourself in this second part of our thought experiment.
“You’ve spent the past few months preparing for this coming week and you’re so excited! You have read every book and magazine you could get your hands on. You’ve had lunch with a few different business owners. You’ve arranged to take turns carpooling the kids with other moms. You’ve stock piled recipes that are quick and easy so the kids can help out with dinner. You feel as ready as you can be. You haven’t even gone live and everyone already thinks of you as an entrepreneur because that’s all you’ve been talking about. Your moment has arrived!”
What do each of these scenarios do to your energy? Does the first make you feel drained and overwhelmed? Alone? Does the second make you feel excited, ready to take on the world? When life feels like that first scenario, we feel too small to take on so many obstacles. We feel we don’t have much choice in the life we are swept up in. But you do. You absolutely do. You choose what to do and how to do it every second of every day. When you’re feeling stuck, it just means you’ve outgrown your current circumstances and it’s time to make some changes. So let’s get on it.
It all starts with valuing yourself. Your time. Your talents. You have a lot to offer and it’s time to embrace your dreams!
What are your dreams? And what is at least one thing you can do now to begin making it your new reality?
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